Mastering Your Magnificence

Conflict Resolution

Resolving your struggle of conflict and separation

I am sure you recognise and agree that conflict is a fairly significant element of the human experience. For as long as humanity can recall, there has been conflict of many kinds taking place within all forms of relationship—be that the close intimate relationship between lovers, or the impersonal relationship between two nations.

In my experience—and I would say that of any person who has deeply studied the true nature of conflict and its resolution—the source of all conflict is the same. Underlying all conflict is the ego and it's illusions of attack, victimisation, fear, and separation. Therefore the resolution to conflict must always revolve around providing the loving support and wisdom necessary for those parties that are in conflict to identify these internal issues and then let them go.

The truth shall quite literally set you free—free from conflict, free from the need to defend, free from the need to attack, free from the need to be right or to make others wrong, and free from the pain that all conflict produces.

Through my life-long exploration into conscious relationship—both in theory and in practice—I have a clear and intimate understanding of relationship and the dynamics that play out in relationships of many kinds. Be they business relationship between one company and another (a supplier and the customer, for instance); relationships within a company (between staff, or management and employees); relationships between family members, between neighbours, between lovers, husband and wife, siblings, parents, and even those between tribes and nations.

Of course the more people involved in the conflicting sides the more complex and challenging resolution becomes because each member of the conflicting groups will have their own stories and illusions playing out. The key here, however, is to come back to the truth that the collective is always a projection of the individuals within that collective. Hence the resolution to war between two nations (for instance) is to address the conflict that is taking place within the individual people that make up the warring factions. Rather than engaging in the folly of trying to resolve the issues between nations lasting results are found only in the resolution of conflict between and within the people. As the saying does, "Saving the environment begins in the kitchen, and global peace starts in the bedroom".

The wonderful element in all this is that these outer conflicts that arise are in fact a projection from deep within the psyche of those involved. When I find myself in conflict with the world (or some person in the world) it is in fact a projection of an underlying conflict going on within me, irrespective of that person and whatever it is I think I disagree with. I invite you to see that we are the same in the regard.

The beauty of this truth is that true conflict resolution will in fact bring about a much deeper resolution of an ongoing conflict within your own mind and emotions. This sort of inner conflict—which is often playing out 24 hours a day and often times throughout your life—is a huge drain of your personal power and energy. It is an incessant cause of tension and stress, whether we are aware of it or not.

Release from this sort of turmoil is a very liberating process which for many results in a new level of inner peace, self-acceptance, joy, love, and a greatly expanded "heart" and mind. This is the gift that conflict has to offer when it is approached and resolved in a conscious way.

My role and function as a facilitator of conflict resolution is to help you approach conflict with the sort of consciousness that will unleash this wonderful liberating gift within you and the other conflicting parties.